Planning a wedding is one of the most stressful experiences in most people’s lives; comparable to bereavement, moving house and even divorce. Whether you decide to get married within a few months of your engagement or save up and have your big day years after the proposal, the planning process will become all-consuming. You are likely to discover family rifts that you never knew existed and irritating habits that your fiancé had never previously displayed.
So is it possible to take the stress out of planning a wedding? These days, it is possible to hire a professional wedding planner to do it all for you. They will make all the arrangements, book the venue and the catering, sort out the decorations and invitations among other helpful things. What they can’t do though is make decisions for you. So will they really take away the stress?
Decisions, decisions!
The most difficult thing about planning a wedding is the decisions you have to make. Often the first thing you have to make up your mind about is the venue. This can lead to all sorts of arguments, often about finances. One way to minimise arguments about the venue is to look at places that are a little unusual. Examples would be a museum, a cider mill or a marquee in a field. More unusual places are often a lot cheaper. It may also be a little less stressful to arrange if you know right from day one that your wedding isn’t going to be run of the mill. This can lead one to being a bit more willing to stray from the norm in other ways.
Who to invite?
The next part of your wedding planning that can cause arguments is the invitations. Get it wrong and you could find yourself calling in the divorce solicitors as soon as the wedding is over! Whether you go for a large or small wedding, you are bound to find yourself in a position where some of the guests won’t get along with others. Along with choosing your guests carefully, you may find yourself spending hours, days or even weeks on putting together your table plan. An alternative that you might consider would be to allow your guests to seat themselves. As long as there are enough seats for everyone, why not leave the stressful part to them? Who knows, great aunt Gladys might make a new lifelong friend in your fiancé’s heavy metal loving cousin Keith.
To dance or not to dance?
The final wedding day stress that could be eliminated is your first dance. Like many wedding traditions, there is no definitive answer to the question of where the idea originated from. There is also no formal requirement to do this. So if you and your beloved can’t agree on the style of music, the dance routine or the song, why not stop and consider whether you need to do it at all?
How you decide to plan your wedding is entirely up to you. If you are getting stressed out by it and might risk not enjoying the day, just stop for a few moments and take stock. It’s your big day. Enjoy it!
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